When i log on to friendster, i would occassionally  browse through the bulletins posted on the bulletin board, even though most of the time i'd autonomously ignore the whole board, cause i know sometimes some bulletins are just crap. you know, CRAP like total 100% irritating, good for nothing C R A P.  I only read

a) surveys done by friends

b) bulletins with attention-drawing titles (which may contain crappy content)

and

c) when i just feel like reading those random bulletins (that's how i know how crappy some bulletins can be)

Right now, it has something to do with option B. A bulletin entitled "Girl Language" posted by my cousin, drew my attention. And yes. It was probably one of the best 2 minutes of my life. 'cause it made me have this sort of warm and fuzzy feeling inside.

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Girl Language

When i don't call you,
 It's because im waiting for you to
 call me.

When i walk away from you mad,
 Follow me.

When i stare at your lips,
 Kiss me.

When i push you or hit you,
 Grab me and don't let go.

When i start cursing at you,
 Kiss me and tell me you love me.

When i'm quiet,
 Ask me what's wrong.

When i ignore you,

give me your attention.

When i pull away,

Pull me back.

When you see me at my worst,
 tell me i'm beautiful.

When you see me crying,
 Hold me  and tell me everything will
 be alright.

When you see me walking,
 Sneak up and  hug  my waist  from
  behind.

When i'm scared,
 Protect me.

When i lay my head on your shoulder,
 Tilt  my head up and kiss me.

When i tease you,
Tease me back and make me laugh.

When i don't answer for a long time,
 reassure me that everything is okay.

When i look at you with doubt,
 Back yourself up.

When i say that i like you,
 I really do more  than you could
understand.

When i grab at your hands,
 Hold mine and play with my fingers.

When i bump into you,
 bump back into me and make me laugh .

When i tell you a secret,
 keep it safe and untold.

When i look at you in your eyes,
 dont look away until i do.

When i miss you,
 im hurting inside

When you break my heart,
the pain never really goes away.

When i say it's over,

 i still want you to be mine

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So i reposted it. not because of that stupid, if-you-don't-repost-this-you-will-*insert.unfortunate.event.here*  threat they include at the end of almost every chain bulletin, but because i enjoyed this bulletin. this really nice bulletin.

But then of course, all those up there does not necessarily apply into every circumstance in a relationship. I mean, to think so is stupid, foolish, unwise, and naive.

All these lovey-dovey stuff are just beautiful gems that temporarily sparkle in courtship and romance. Things that naturally happen to make you and your partner bond. God designed us that way. Marriage has always been a plan for us, and before marrying, we must firstly develop feelings for another individual, where mutual attraction exist.  But one should never go over board in these things. It will lead to sinful things. like PMS. no not pre-mestrual syndrome silly, i mean pre-marital sex.or of the like. But still, being in a relationship is not wrong, as long as you abide by your moral values and conscience.

I think one shouldn't have a whole negative outlook on being in a relationship. [yes darling, there ARE people who have such outlooks] When the time comes, the time comes. If it is God's will for you to be in relationship, then let it be. There's no need to rant about the "Study first, then i'll venture into love" kinda thing. well yeah, it is a practical thing for you to do, but seriously, what is wrong with being in a relationship, when you know you can still balance your studies and love life? [unless you can't then that's a completely different story] Like i said, when the time comes, the time comes. Everything will be okay when you handle things in moderation. Of course when you do get into a relationship, you don't abandon everything around you. I mean just because you are intoxicated in the ecstasy of love, it doesn't mean you should ignore your priorities in life [even if you are inclined to ignore. cause you know "love" can blind you. especially when you are weak]

So anyway you think all these lovey-dovey things happen when the infatuation dies? pfft. Think again.

This is why failed marriages exist.  Couples tend to be blinded by thinking that being in a relationship, or rather getting married, is all about the feel-good feeling when they are together.

No it's not darling. Let reality smack you right on your face.

I think that one must think properly, contemplate deeply and choose the ab-so-freaking-lute-ly right partner, before getting married.

Kerna pernikahan itu adalah sesuatu yang amat suci, di mana dua hati bergabung menjadi satu.

okay, even though i know all these stuff, there still might be a chance i might go wrong somewhere. but that's just because we are all imperfect. so let us remind each other, hand in hand, that marriage is sacred, and when we get off-track, we'll lead each other into the right track =)

and i have developed this new mentality that one SHOULD NEVER JUDGE those who had pre-marital sex or got pregnant accidentally. I mean, come on. Like i said, we are all imperfect. Nanti ko sendiri terkena gitu macamana? Nah kau lagila MALU. haha. but oh, imperfection shouldn't be an excuse for you to do immoral acts.

I have SO many other things to say! but it's getting late (2.54am) so i guess i'll save it for another day. =)

And oh, i don't think girl language is the right title. It sounds rather... shallow.

HAHA!

I think it should just be called

"What a girl expects"

haha!

Adios amigo. Have a great day.